Insights and advice

The Difference Between Being Good at Sex and Being Met

I am not in alignment today. I am recording late. Overscheduled myself and didn’t hold boundaries. I am relying on a chocolate peanut butter brownie and caffeine to get this done. And one of the things I love about working with superwomen is th...

You do not lose desire. There is really no such thing.

For women with super traits, desire does not disappear. It goes offline when you override yourself one too many times, and your body adapts because it knows it is not safe.

We like to think desire fades slowly. That it is stress. Hormones. Per...

When the Holidays Reveal What Was Never Resolved

Over the Christmas break, I had several private clients reach out, and what I noticed was that the transformations had not been completed. The holidays brought up ruptures, disappointments, and old patterns at a time when most women were already runn...

Most relationship advice says relationships are healthy when you communicate. Be open. Share your feelings. Explain your needs. Take responsibility for your emotions. This advice is everywhere, and on the surface, it sounds right. But for women with Super Traits, this framework often makes things wo...

Happy New Year. Things always feel different and also the same. As women with super traits, there is always hope. There is always intentionality. There is always a desire for more. That desire matters. It says something about who you are and how deeply you care about your life, your relationships, a...

We are almost at the end of the year, and if you are anything like the women I work with and I, this year has been both a shedding and an expanding. A kind of homecoming to yourself. A groundedness and clarity that maybe you did not have before. Christmas has a way of surfacing all of that at once.

The holiday season is often described as joyful, but for many women with super traits, it is one of the most exhausting times of the year. More expectations. More emotional labor. More pressure to keep the peace. More overgiving. When nothing changes, this season amplifies burnout, resentment, lonel...

Financial infidelity rarely appears in the dramatic ways people imagine. It almost never arrives as a single shocking moment. Instead, it grows quietly inside relationships that look loving and stable from the outside. The damage begins long before the truth comes to light. What makes financial betr...

You know your patterns. You know your attachment style. You understand your window of tolerance. You have built boundaries and stopped abandoning yourself. Yet when life gets hard, or someone is disappointed in you, you still end up doing the emotional labor. You collapse or you over-function. Your ...

You are not frigid. You are fried.

I say this to women with super traits every week. You are not frigid. You are fried. When you have empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and hard work wired into your nervous system, you build your entire relationship around him. You center his moods, his stress, his ...