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After more than a decade helping thousands of brilliant women reclaim their intimacy, there’s one thing I’ve learned to look for every single time. It’s not how much sex you’re having. It’s not how many years you’ve been married. It’s this one sentence.

“He’s a really good guy.”

And when I hear it...

Rethinking Breast Cancer, Hormones, and Prevention with Dr. Jenn Simmons

I will say this first. This episode is not about fear. It’s about truth. It’s about power. And it’s about giving women the full picture so they can actually take care of their health, especially when it comes to breast cancer....

You Think You Want to Be In Control. You Don’t.

If you've ever been told you're too much or one of the boys. Suppose you've had to explain your needs and your desires over and over. If you feel like surrender is terrifying because you’ve built your life on control, on plans, on leading. This is for...

I had two clients yesterday. Both came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, and resentful. And they left smiling. Flushed. Alive. Turned on.

I’m going to tell you why.

If you are a high-achieving woman with so much success in your career, if you have what you said you always wanted, but when it comes ...

There is no faster way to make a CEO or a surgeon squirm than handing them a crystal dildo at one of my retreats. And it’s always the same look. The new clients stare at it and ask, 'What do I do with this? What are the steps? Where’s the training video?

Because when we’re high-achieving, people-pl...

It’s Not Your Libido. It is Burnout.

The high-achieving women that I work with usually fall into two groups. Either they have low desire and have checked out because intimacy feels like a task, a performance, or a source of resentment. Or they have high desire and feel confused because sex is the o...

“Sorry, I didn’t shave.”   “Sorry, I brought my baby.”   “Sorry, I’m crying.”

Women apologize before pelvic exams, as if it’s expected. And what they’re really saying is this. I’m sorry for how I look. I’m sorry for taking up space. I’m sorry for needing care.

But no one ever taught them what is a...

Why Communication Doesn’t Fix Sexless Marriages

Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. I was a part of this problem. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage.

If your relationship feels like a neve...

There is no shortage of sexy conversation prompts. All of these men's coaches and writers writing those spicy things that you're like, yes, press save on social. I even have a free guide to dirty talk. But there is a massive disconnect from you reading my dirty talk guide, hearing me talk about it o...

I get a DM from a man at least once a week. How do I get my wife to initiate sex? How do I get my wife to want sex again? And every time I think to myself, are you really ready to hear the answer?

Because what turns women on, especially in long-term relationships, is not lingerie. It is not a sex t...