High-Achieving Women. Are they lonely?

High-achieving women are the loneliest and most under fucked people I know.

What a Well-Fucked Feeling Really Is

You know that well-fucked feeling? The one right after great sex or an amazing meal. After a good flirt. It’s that pleasure buzz. That hit of fun, of possibility, of being fully present. Fully ALIVE.

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That’s what my retreat attendees feel. These retreats are part of my Pleasure Mastery Network. Some women have been with me for a while. Others dive straight into the deep end. But they all trust me to guide the experience.

By the end? We’re crying. Hugging. Asking how we go back to "normal." We want to bottle that well-fucked, fully alive feeling and take it home.

This Isn’t a Sex Retreat But an Awakening to Pleasure

Let me clear something up. If your mind went straight to sex, this isn’t that kind of retreat. It’s not about the act of sex itself. It’s about being seen and feeling alive.

I used to plan every inch of these retreats. I had 20-page documents, bullet points, and schedules. Now? I still keep the essentials. Workshop time. A private chef. Guest experts. Photographers. Massage therapists. 

The magic? It comes from just gathering. When high-achieving women come together, something shifts. 

When Hustling Becomes Isolation

We had erotic reclamation. Hip circles. Flirting. Seduction workshops. We stumbled into an impromptu Slut School. We had relationship breakthroughs. Partners are making dinner plans. Women beginning to feel deeply desired. 

One client looked me dead in the eye and said, "I’ve been fucking wrong this whole time."

We had grief and emotional releases. Shared healing. And it was all possible because they were witnessed. 

That’s what this space at my retreats creates. Real connection. Real sisterhood. Women sharing things they’ve never spoken out loud. Laughing. Learning. Receiving. Actually receiving.

Many don’t even realize how much they lack true sisterhood and friendship because they’ve lived a life of hustling. Of putting out one fire after another. One achievement after another.

The conditioning says that success means independence. I can do this all myself. And we wear that belief like a badge of honor. But independence without intimacy becomes isolation. And let me tell you. You are definitely not having great sex if you’re not connected to a community.

Wearing “I’m Fine” Like Armor

High-achieving women wear "I’m fine" like armor. I know, because I used to do the same. Personally. Clinically. I see it all the time with my clients.

At these retreats, something shifts. They finally feel safe enough to share. To open up. To say things they’ve never spoken out loud. Things they didn’t know needed to be said. Things they thought they dealt with but had buried beneath the busyness.

And then it clicks.

They say, "If I break down, no one will be there to catch me. If I stop, who picks up the pieces?"

But then they stop. They break. And they are held. And that’s the beginning of real intimacy. It’s not just about sex. It’s about being seen. Safe. Witnessed.

You’re Not Broken. You’re Disconnected

Many women say they want to flirt again. To feel playful, light. They ask, "When did it all get so heavy? When did I stop playing?"

High-achievers often feel like they should be grateful. They have so much. But the ache is still there. And when they ignore it, it just gets louder.

We perform gratitude. Perform joy. Perform pleasure. We check the box for sex. And then we wonder why we feel numb.

That numbness? That’s anhedonia. It’s the inability to feel pleasure or joy. And no one tells high-achieving women that they can’t fix this alone because we weren’t meant to.

The Power of Gathering

At the retreat, women are witnessed. They speak their truth.. Laugh. Cry. One woman sent nudes to her husband for the first time, for her. And yes, he loved them.

After the retreat, things shift. At home. With their partner. With their kids. The energy changes. At first, their husbands are skeptical. Then they start asking, "When’s the next one?"

That’s how powerful this is; sitting in circle and being witnessed. It’s sacred. There are places in the world where women aren’t even allowed to gather.

So if you’re successful and lonely. If you feel disconnected from your body, your pleasure, and your life, HEAR THIS-

You are not broken. You’re just disconnected. And that disconnect? It’s not your fault. It’s systemic. And it’s costing you.

Loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. It’s hurting your relationships. Your happiness. Even your business.

We’re taught to self-sacrifice. To be easy. Not too easy. To stay small. But connection happens when we allow ourselves to receive. To be seen.

This retreat wasn’t an escape. It was a homecoming. A reality where your body isn’t numb. Where your partner plans a date night. Where your group chat is filled with joy. Where someone says, "I’ve been fucking wrong this whole time."

Some women have been texting me since. They can’t stop crying. Happy tears. Feeling alive. Connected to something they didn’t even know was missing.

So, how do you take that feeling home?

First, GRACE. You didn’t create this disconnection. It’s not your fault. What were you taught about sex, intimacy, and women’s health? That’s the problem.

Second, KEEP YOUR PLEASURE TANK FULL. Through movement. Breath. Touch. Orgasm. Your body is the gateway. It needs fuel.

Third. STAY CONNECTED. We need community. Reflection. Truth-telling. It’s not optional. It’s sacred.

Fourth, CREATE NERVOUS SYSTEM SAFETY. If you’re stuck in fight-or-flight, your pleasure centers shut down. You can’t connect to desire. If you can’t answer, "How do I like to be kissed?" something needs to change.

No, you don’t need another checklist or morning routine. You need a circle of women who see you. Who remind you that you’re not broken, you’re remembering. That’s what we do inside the Pleasure Mastery Network and in my group coaching.

 Are you a high-achieving woman who is ready to finally feel again? I’ve got you!nYou don’t need to be healed. You just need to want more.

You can start by joining the FREE Pleasure Path Private Podcast series, where I go deep into unlocking these pleasure principles at home. [LISTEN HERE]

REMEMBER: You are not broken. You’re just overdue for a return.