Insights and advice

In the beginning of a relationship, initiating sex and intimacy comes easy. Initiating sex in marriage and long-term relationships is where things start to become more complicated.

I first want to mention that this is normal. At the beginning of a relationship your attachment neurochemicals – dopamin...

Over the past little while, my male audience has been growing so I wanted to focus on something that all genders send me messages about – “How can I become a better lover?”.

Many of you are like me. You’re what I like to call “superwomen” or in this case “superpeople”. The short explanation for a sup...

 If you are honest, and I mean radically honest with yourself, are your needs being met? When I say needs, I’m referring to the basics, the bones, like the foundation of a house.

What about your desires – are your desires being met? When was the last time you felt fulfilled? When was the last time yo...

There is this false belief that once you are partnered, your pleasure and orgasms are your partner's responsibility. I’ve also had people tell me they and/or their partner consider it cheating or that if you’re self-pleasuring it means something is wrong or missing with your relationship.

In my opini...

We like to blame a lot of different things for the lack of sex and intimacy in our relationships, I hear these excuses all the time. The problem is that blaming these things is ruining your relationships and your overall well being.

Hormones and/or stress are common things people blame for the lack o...

“Not tonight.”

No one wants to hear that. And many of us don't want to say that.

Contrary to societal beliefs, mismatched libidos are normal and to be expected in long-term relationships. Oftentimes we are trying to get back to that New Relationship Energy feeling, and we have no idea how to cultivate...

 Do you like giving blowjobs? Have you ever wondered who first looked at a dick and thought.. I want to put that in my mouth? 

I gave my first unofficial blowjob tutorial to a group of ladies during our pre-med degree after a Cellular Physiology class. Which is probably when I should have known I was...

 Physical touch and connection come naturally in the early stages of a relationship. It's something we don't need to work hard at; it just happens.

During this time, our bodies release a hormone and neurochemical cocktail that intensifies our thoughts about that person and leaves us wanting more - do...

 As a recovering superwoman who now works with fellow superwomen every single day, I know a thing or two about feeling exhausted, crusty, and lacking desire.

Women like you are balancing A LOT. You’re doing everything for everyone, thinking ahead, planning, delegating, and being the glue that holds e...

Women are fantastic tolerators. Life taught us this. Our childhoods taught us this. Just generally growing up identifying as female taught us this. 

And whether we do it because we want to help, because giving to others makes us feel good, or whatever we think the reason is… the reality is that as hi...