It’s Not Your Libido. It is Burnout.

The high-achieving women that I work with usually fall into two groups. Either they have low desire and have checked out because intimacy feels like a task, a performance, or a source of resentment. Or they have high desire and feel confused because sex is the o...

“Sorry, I didn’t shave.”   “Sorry, I brought my baby.”   “Sorry, I’m crying.”

Women apologize before pelvic exams, as if it’s expected. And what they’re really saying is this. I’m sorry for how I look. I’m sorry for taking up space. I’m sorry for needing care.

But no one ever taught them what is a...

Why Communication Doesn’t Fix Sexless Marriages

Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. I was a part of this problem. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage.

If your relationship feels like a neve...

There is no shortage of sexy conversation prompts. All of these men's coaches and writers writing those spicy things that you're like, yes, press save on social. I even have a free guide to dirty talk. But there is a massive disconnect from you reading my dirty talk guide, hearing me talk about it o...

I get a DM from a man at least once a week. How do I get my wife to initiate sex? How do I get my wife to want sex again? And every time I think to myself, are you really ready to hear the answer?

Because what turns women on, especially in long-term relationships, is not lingerie. It is not a sex t...

I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book The Pink Canary. And I’ve learned so much since then.

Not because scheduling sex was inherently wrong. But it became one more way for high-functioning women like us to be set up to fail....

I hear this all the time. My husband is great. He’s patient. He supports my career. He’s a great dad. But you don’t want to have sex with him. Or maybe he doesn’t want to have sex with you.

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There’s emotional distance. You feel lone...

You did everything right.

The degrees, the white coat, the thriving practice, the perfect custom home—you were doing everything you were supposed to. So why did it feel like you were dying inside?

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I used to think something was wro...

You’ve Done the Therapy. Why Are You Still the Problem?

You’ve done the therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve tried to fix it.

But if you’ve ever sat on a therapist’s couch and walked away wondering why you still feel like the problem, this is for you.

Therapy isn’t broken. It just wasn’t built ...

Fingering Your Way to More Pleasure

Before the pressure. Before the performance. Before checkbox sex. Pleasure used to come naturally. But somewhere along the way, pleasure got buried under mental gymnastics, pressure to perform, and trying to earn intimacy instead of receiving it.
High-achieving wo...