Do you have a pile of shit in your basement? And no, we’re not talking about the toys your kids grew out of 5 years ago, a broken lamp you swear you’ll fix, or a box of random cords that don’t match any current gadgets. When we refer to shit in your basement, we’re talking about the personal crap that we’re tucking away so no one will ever see. The shame, resentment, exhaustion, relationship issues, etc. that we hide away and ignore with the hope that it will go away on its own.
So we’re going to ask again… Do you have a pile of shit in your basement? We’re going to guess the answer is yes.
What Having Shit In The Basement Really Means
Having shit in the basement is an analogy for all the crap that we throw downstairs in order to avoid it and pretend it’s not there. It’s all the shit that keeps piling up years after years, without getting rid of it effectively. It’s a common pattern amongst superwomen like yourself - working too hard, over-functioning, putting everyone first while ignoring your desires and joy.
That shit pile is the thing between you and everything you want in life but don’t have. More time, more sex, more money, more laughter, more energy, etc.
You can keep your upstairs and yard looking great, and your family and friends may think you have it all together looking from the outside in - you think they’d never notice the shit in the basement. However, the more it piles up, the more it will eventually affect your relationships (if it hasn’t already).
What Effects It Can Have
You may think you have your shit pile hidden away, but that basement door doesn’t stop it from impacting your relationships. Sure, you can keep pretending it’s not there and keep throwing more shit on it, but it’ll just keep getting bigger and bigger. The longer you ignore it, the bigger it gets, the more it starts to impact your life, your family, your health, your job, your libido, everything.
You may find yourself pushing people away, not fostering relationships, or not having close friendships because you’re scared they’ll see what you’ve been hiding. The thing is, they’ll find out eventually. Your husband, for example, will sense that distance between the two of you and your intimacy and connection may deteriorate.
We can’t truly be happy and be the best versions of ourselves if we’re constantly feeling like something is missing, and we can’t achieve that happiness until we’re cleaned out that basement of shit we’ve been ignoring.
What Can You Do?
You need to realize that you’ve been living in a house that has a basement full of shit and it’s impacting your life by getting in the way of having what you desire. In order to open up that space to build something totally new, you first have to clear out the basement. We have to warn you though - it’s not going to happen in one day, especially if it’s been piling up for years.
You need to learn how to properly clean it out, one pile at a time. Once you start clearing, you start to get honest about your shit pile and confide in your partner and friends about it. More importantly, you begin to forgive yourself and accept your shit pile for what it is.
There are certain feminine practices you can do to help with this journey:
How To Start
We’re here to help. If you’re ready to start cleaning in order to live a more full, radiant life, then let’s work together. We have a community of like minded women to support and encourage you. Stop ignoring your shit and start moving forward.