Anal sex. It isn’t for everyone, that’s for sure. If you’re uncomfortable reading about or talking about the topic - that’s a sure fire sign that you need to start getting curious. Now this doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to rush into trying anal sex right away or at all, but take this as an opportunity to explore your beliefs and opinions, explore your pleasure, and see what your resistance to the topic is telling you.
Maybe you’re intrigued, maybe you’ve tried it and it didn’t go to play, maybe you feel shame around it because that’s how you’ve been told to feel. It’s important to be open minded and to trust the process, because when we open ourselves up to receiving love and pleasure, we open ourselves up to so much more.
While anal sex is becoming much more mainstream with more and more couples talking about it or trying it, there are still some major misconceptions when it comes to the topic.
First off, it is NOT what you see in porn. Even sex performers who are actually having this type of sex don’t just jump in ready to go. There’s lots of prep work involved, practicing, stretching, taking breaks and working their way up. What you’re seeing in porn isn’t realistic, so you can’t expect to just jump in and have a pleasurable experience. In order to achieve a pleasurable experience, you need to have some serious foreplay and deep trust with your partner.
You need to be in the right space physically and mentally when deciding to have anal sex or else you can do a lot of damage (tearing, pelvic pain, etc.). You should never feel pressured or convinced into doing it. Enthusiastic yes’ only. When you’re mentally not enjoying it, you’ll tense up and it won’t be an enjoyable experience.
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All in all, if you’re feeling intense pain or there’s blood and tearing, you’re not doing it right.
Be Open To Receiving Pleasure
It’s important to be open to exploring different ways of experiencing pleasure (whether that includes anal sex or not). When we open ourselves to receiving pleasure, we’re opening ourselves up to receiving so much more acceptance, better sex, better health and more wealth. Sex and pleasure are the gateway to receiving the life you want to live.
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