#190 Why Strong Women Overlook Betrayal and Red Flags in Relationships

I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships.

This was me. This is many of my clients.

And the truth is, we have super traits. These qualities make us capable, loyal, and endlessly resourceful. They are the reason we excel at work and keep our lives moving forward when things are hard. But they can also blind us to how harmful our relationship has become.

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We tell ourselves it is not that bad. We adapt. We over-function. We keep everyone else comfortable at the expense of our own peace. Until something happens that forces us to see the truth.

When the Wake-Up Calls Hit

Last week, I had a client find out about her partner’s affair. I had another who was struggling with her partner’s drinking. And another who discovered that her husband had opened another business and invested a large amount of their shared money without her consent.

These are not everyday disagreements. They are breaches of trust and emotional safety. And yet, before these moments, each of these women had been explaining away and adapting to behaviors that were quietly eroding their confidence and well-being.

When Strength Becomes the Reason You Stay

Our super traits make us the person who holds everything together. We believe we can handle anything. We are loyal to a fault. And while those traits are celebrated in our careers, in love, they can keep us trapped.

Success in a relationship is not measured by how much you can endure. It is measured by the presence of respect, trust, and emotional safety.

How to Break the Cycle

It starts with naming what is happening. Then, you must see how your strengths are being used against you. From there, you can decide what you are no longer willing to carry.

Choosing yourself is not failure. It is refusing to normalize harm and call it love.

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