#176 Why High-Achieving Women Stop Wanting Sex (And How to Get Your Desire Back)

You did everything right.

The degrees, the white coat, the thriving practice, the perfect custom home—you were doing everything you were supposed to. So why did it feel like you were dying inside?

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I used to think something was wrong with me. I thought maybe I was anxious. Maybe I was codependent. Maybe it was my hormones. I tried everything; therapy, functional medicine, communication tools, books, more therapy, more supplements.

I spent over 200K looking for answers. But no one was asking the right questions.

The truth is, I wasn’t broken. I had just been given the wrong script.

The real cost of Superwoman conditioning

What I now know is that Superwoman conditioning, this constant pressure to lead, hold everything together, never ask for help. THIS is one of the biggest desire killers there is.

It trains us to overfunction, to prioritize everyone else’s needs, and to perform in and out of the bedroom.

And the result?

We disconnect from our bodies. We numb out. We stop feeling. Sex becomes one more thing on the to-do list. The pleasure centers in our brain shut off. And our nervous systems go into overdrive trying to keep us safe.

This isn’t about low libido. Most women don’t have low libido. They have low safety.

Traditional systems keep gaslighting women like us

I want to name something here. High-functioning women get gaslit by systems all the time.

We’re praised for our resilience while we’re dying inside. We show up to therapy or doctor’s appointments and present well, so no one sees how much we’re carrying. We get told to take a bath and drink a glass of wine. We get prescribed hormones. We’re told to try harder.

But no one is looking at the power dynamics. The emotional labor. The sheer amount of pressure on our nervous systems every single day.

And when you’re flooded, when you’re overwhelmed and exhausted, your body cannot create proper hormones. Your libido cannot thrive. Your desire cannot breathe.

You’re not broken. You’re burnt out.

I can’t tell you how many women I’ve worked with who say the same thing. I have everything. Why do I feel nothing? Why am I so numb? Why don’t I want sex? Why can’t I just be grateful?

Because you’ve been performing for so long that your body finally said no.

Because we’ve been prescribed communication tools when what we needed was sovereignty.
Because we’ve been overfunctioning in systems that were never designed to nourish us.
Because we’ve been bending and bending until we break.

What if it’s not you?

What if you’re not the problem?

What if your lack of desire is not a hormone issue, but a power dynamic issue?
What if the therapy hasn’t worked because it was never built for women with super traits like yours?

Empathy. Loyalty. Conscientiousness.

These traits make us incredible in our careers, but they keep us stuck in harmful relationship dynamics when there’s no balance of emotional labor or leadership. And when we try to fix the system by working harder, we get sicker. We feel more broken. We keep spinning our wheels without ever getting anywhere.

That’s why I created the Pleasure Path Assessment. [CLICK HERE]

You deserve answers

Not a quiz. Not a funnel. Actual answers.

In the Pleasure Path Assessment [CLICK HERE], we map your intimacy patterns. We look at your shutdown style. We name what traditional systems have ignored; emotional labor, invisible power dynamics, nervous system safety.

This isn’t just about sex. This is about getting your life back.

Because healing begins when we stop performing and start feeling. And when women are witnessed in that process, they heal even faster.

You don’t have to keep sacrificing your health, your joy, or your connection just to keep everything running.

You’re not broken. You’re just ready for a different path.

Click here to book your Pleasure Path Assessment now [CLICK HERE]